What is Separation? (Download)
Saturday 22 November 2008
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Separation itself in its entirety is an in depth, intricate and complex subject, however the more appropriate and relevant question is perhaps:
What does Separation really mean to you?
Separation is a very personal thing, with everyone on a unique journey of their own. There is no one size fits all solution, only peaceful or conflicting remedies.
How you perceive Separation (a good or bad thing) will most likely come from your preconditioning; experiences, knowledge and understanding of yourself and the Separation process.
Now is a time to start fresh!
Be clear in your thinking, get good advice from many who have been through separation, and follow your 'gut feeling' down a path that makes the most sense to you. You are a good person just possibly hurt and confused at the moment, so at all times, keep your intentions honourable and peaceful, especially when you are involving innocent children. Refrain from any angst and bitterness where possible, as tempting is it maybe to lash out your 'ex' and others. Get control of your emotions quickly through support that helps you understand what is happening, is safe to allow you to pour your heart out, and gives you strategies for regaining some control over the situation.
If you are the person that's bailing out of the family, you must yield maturity and respect for other family members, as they will need time to adjust to the shock and grief of the Separation. Your attitude and how you conduct your behaviour will help shape the righteous path you must embark upon, in order to minimise any pain and conflict that usually arises during a Separation.
At best, Separation is a WAKE-UP call! It's a chance to learn more about your SELF. At worst it can send you into a spiral that can lead to destructive consequences for you and your family.
You have to decide NOW, from your higher self (putting those negative emotions of hurt and anger to one side for the moment), whether it is PEACE and LOVE or CONFLICT that you want.
If it's peace and love you have chosen, this is the right path, and all good things will come to you.
Conflict will end up in misery and despair, with everyone losing. If you have these thoughts seek help on issues of deep pain, loss, fear, resentment, envy and jealousy quickly. These are normal issues for people and are not serious if worked through promptly. There is no shame in feeling this way, only shame in doing nothing about it and acting recklessly.
Either way, personal development is 99% of the solution for Separation and legal paperwork (if necessary) is only 1%. So get learning about who you this can be scary but very enlightening and rewarding.
Remember that if you continue to do what you have always done, you will always be what you have always been.
For a wonderful website to express and view comments of gratitude visit: www.IamSoGrateful.org
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