X Factor

By Michael Knight

Thursday 27 November 2008

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What is the X Factor?

Going through a Separation is without doubt a stressful period for anyone, however, the key is not to exacerbate these levels of stress unnecessarily.

When people are put under various types of stress, unpredictable things can happen — at Beyond Separation we call this the X-Factor.

Although signs of stress with some people can be clearly visible, with others it's hard to tell, as there is no way of getting behind the eyeballs of a person and see what's truly happening in a person's mind.

The mind and body can be a powerful thing yet remarkably fragile under certain conditions. All sorts of events triggering people's thought patterns can result in a varying range of actions and emotions, including things we thought would never happen.

So at all times care and awareness is critical to keep stress to a minimal. Either by not placing ourselves under too much stress, or by not placing others under stress.

A few examples of causes of stress are loss of partner, children, family, home, friends, job, assets, finances, security, self identity, self esteem and a perceived loss of control. All these things can bring you down quicker than gravity jumping from a 100 storey building.

Add into the equation lawyers, courts, litigation, unfounded accusations, violence, abuse, threats, orders, restrictions on freedom, police intervention, fear, unfairness, mental health issues of depression, ideations of suicide and harm to others, loss of purpose and meaning, waste of time, money, energy, years in recovery or rehabilitation and the list goes on, and you can cause a person a complete meltdown, destroying his or her soul, and possibly spirit. All in all, it's a recipe for disaster, and this is only the tip of the iceberg.

So if we all understand we shouldn't do that to people, why do we?
Is it because we couldn't care less or is it we don't know any better, from a lack of the right education?

I suggest the latter, and put to everyone in society, that we each have a responsibility to ourselves, partners, children, families and fellow man, to all create better, less harmful and destructive ways in which we deal with families and individuals experiencing family breakdown.

Take care with love and peace

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    By: Tommy Perez from Maryland, USA on December 23, 2010 @ 11:15 pm
    BRAVO!! Well said - I couldnt of said it better myself. Only through people changing will a system change or perhaps better still, not needed at all. :)
    By: Dave P from SA, Australia on July 11, 2010 @ 10:50 am
    I'm 28 and my parents split when I was about 12. 16 yrs later and it's starting to affect me especially as my parents don't talk. I doubt whether I'll ever marry because of it.
    By: Sonya from Brisbane, Australia on June 13, 2010 @ 1:12 pm
    Does a person setting themselves alight outside the Family Court what you refer to as the X factor?
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