Monday 5 January 2009
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Happy New Year to you and everyone, it's going to be a fantastic year. Just tell yourself that 100 plus times and you will start to believe it or go mad, one or the other. No, it will - it just has to be. At least that's what my little voice of reason in my head says, so it must be true? Yikes...that's another topic of discussion.
Anyway, I was looking on a dating site recently, to find that love of my life - ain't that a biggy - and noticed many women were saying things like "I want somebody happy,...they have to be happy within themselves,.. and I'm happy", and I thought if love wasn't big enough, now I have happy to deal with... Sheesh.
So what is happiness, really?
So then I started thinking and researching it, which I guess normally, one should not have to, it should just be right? Then I thought maybe I lost it somewhere, perhaps it's buried deep under that deep pile of rubble from that blast of 'TNT' that went off, multiple times, from a long bitter drawn out Separation. Hmmm... I just don't know.
Maybe that was the cause of the relationship breakdown who will ever know, but that doesn't much matter now does it, cos it's in the past, or does the past matter, and if so, how much? Ooops off topic.
Anyway, I'm taking the standpoint that happiness can be whatever you want it to be, can't it? Well, that's my position for at least now.
Some people talk about the pursuit of happiness, happiness itself is the way, others say it's simply a state of mind. It can become quite confusing.
Although, when you observe people who appear to be happy, reaffirmed by them saying "Yes... I think I'm happy" and start laughing, I wonder to myself am I missing out on something here. Am I happy and perhaps just don't know it?
Then I start to think back in my younger years in my 20's and as a kid to get those memories of happiness, followed by wondering whether I have ever been happy, or know what happiness really is. Maybe I have suffered some form of depression, bouts of moodiness, sadness all my life.
Well at least from the age of five perhaps, when my father walked out and left my mother to raise four boys, pretty well on her own, and I was the eldest. So maybe I didn't get my share of the happy pills that were being dished out in childhood. But does everyone? Hmm... good ol' childhood, another topic for another day.
But really, what is the essence of happiness and what is it good for?
My view at present is that happiness is a feel good drug. So why buy and use synthetic drugs, often with side effects, when you can have the 100% pure natural chemical made from your own brain FREE!
That sounds pretty good to me... How do I start producing this chemical concoction, I want to feel good all day, every day... let me at it.
But there is a secret trick to being happy every day despite life's circumstances and works something like this, well so I'm led to believe.
I have just borrowed and about to read the book 'The Happiness Bug' by Shelley Sykes which incorporates passages from the book 'Happiness Purpose'by Edward De Bono.
Are you happy? Please write and tell me what it's like for you, with or without having read the book.
For a wonderful website to express and view comments of gratitude visit: www.IamSoGrateful.org
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