5 Common mistakes when Separating

By Michael Knight

Friday 30 January 2009

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Authorities, Courts, lawyers, politicians are not in charge, the people are — we are.
That means YOU and I are.

They are our servants — hence the name public servants and our taxes pay for them, or in the case of private lawyers, we pay for them.

So if it is NOT our WISH to be involved in a destructive legal system upon a Separation or Divorce, certainly a process that is not good for us, or our children and family, the only wise thing to do and say is NO. Even if your former partner or spouse chooses this path because perhaps he or she does not know any better and possibly in pain for one reason or another, make it clear to them — YOUR WISH and why, and they too may see the light brother, and head down a path of enlightenment and Agreements. Praise the lord. Read article on Separation and Divorce Agreements.

By keeping out of the Family Law system, you will GAIN MORE not lose more, and I just don't mean financially.

The 5 common mistakes people make are:

1. Handing it all over to a lawyer to ACT for you (without knowing all the implications of how this will affect you). Read article on When to see a lawyer, if at all.

2. Consenting to give away your rights as a parent, if not citizen, by becoming an Applicant or Respondent. Your moment of DOOM and GLOOM begins with the lodging of your first piece of paper with the Court, as unobtrusive as this may be. More often than not a lawyer is only too happy to do this bit, for which we also pay them — How silly and naive can we be!

3. Reacting quickly — allowing your FEAR. IGNORANCE and EMOTIONS to control your actions.

4. Not using your ability to THINK clearly and use good COMMON SENSE.

5. Failing to research and obtain as much advice and support as possible. With knowledge and confidence you will be empowered to be strong and stand on your own two feet, achieving the outcome that's right for you. These positive flow on effects will also help you live a better life.
   

With love, peace and kindness
Michael