Do you think too much?

By Michael Knight

Thursday 22 January 2009

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After many years of Separation and many times of being knocked around with legal process and systemic abuse, I found myself trying to return to 'a normal life' and get a job or work, that gave me an income, some satisfaction and purpose. Something I could really enjoy would be nice.

Not an easy task as I have discovered, especially when your head gets all messed up inside, after years of battling for the protection and preservation of yours and your children's rights and what's fair, in a legal system that is inherently problematic (and always will be), further thwarted by unscrupulous individuals prepared to do anything, immoral, unethical or otherwise, for a quick and sizable buck.

So finding that deep down driven purpose that I really love, and can devote my time to, as I did with caring for and raising children, not the typically 'the norm' stuff for a male I know, has become a daily struggle for me now.

Then one day a friend of mine said "You always think too much". Mind you, she had said this many times before, like a broken record, but this time I thought — maybe she's right.

Our thoughts can often race around in our head like cars at a race track. However, racing thoughts can deprive us of literally living in the moment, our energy, awareness and peace.

So how can we quieten or stop our mind from having these endless thoughts?

Well, we can't stop our mind from thinking per se, as this would require the use of our mind, to command the mind to stop thinking. A bit like a dishonest police commissioner controlling the police department to investigate herself the way she wants. It just wouldn't work.

What we can do is talk about our thoughts, write them down or physically action them. There are many thoughts per second so it is difficult, if not impossible, to convert all thoughts into some form of action. However, the most prominent thoughts will raise their heads and become emotionalised, giving you power to act upon them.

However, a higher solution is perhaps to 'ignore' our thoughts altogether, providing us with greater awareness.

But how do we ignore them?

Some gurus will say do absolutely nothing and the thoughts will get weak. Through meditation, sitting quietly by yourself, allowing thoughts to be acknowledged and then pass, and numerous other ways. In essence, all these methods attempt to detach yourself from your thoughts by not responding or reacting to them — a deadening of the mind, some say.

By quietening your mind your thinking processes will become clearer, hence allowing you to make better decisions as you travel through and beyond the maze of Separation and Divorce into a bright and beautiful new life.

You be the judge and make up your own mind — but whatever you do — don't think about it too much.

With love, peace and kindness
Michael